OK. All moms of teens out there are going to understand what I mean. Those of you with babies, toddlers, and pre-schoolers are just going to have to trust me.
It is sweet to be needed. Hold on. Those of you with extreme young'uns, I told you. You need to trust me on this one!I remember well the days of my children being needy, needy, needy. The picture is still very clear in my head of how exhausted I was by the constant whining and calling of my "name". Mommy! Mommy! Mooooommmmmyyyyyy! Oh, how many times I wanted to change my name to something, anything else. But then something happened. The little kids grew up to be big kids and started needing Mom less. And at first, that was OK. Great, even. I enjoyed NOT having to put kids in car seats every time we went somewhere. I remember thinking it was so cool that they could buckle themselves into the car all.by.themselves. Then there were the shoes. I was so proud of my children for learning to put them on without my help. Especially the ones they actually had to TIE. (Truth be told, both of my boys have figured out how to tie their tennis shoes ONCE, such that they can take them off and put them on without ever touching the laces again. *insert eye roll*) More freedom came when the kids started getting their own breakfast and lunch. They simply didn't need Mom so much anymore. And it was delightful. Because I didn't feel so overwhelmed by needs, needs, NEEDS. But something happened which I hadn't expected. I began to feel useless. Like all anyone needed me for anymore was physical sustenance. You know, to get the groceries and make meals. And I found myself looking longingly at the mothers of young 'uns in the store whoTuesday, February 10, 2015
Teens Need Mom, too. (Sometimes)
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On her first day of 6th grade, I was walking my daughter up to the school doors to say, "good bye", chat w/ the other parents, etc. I asked, "Do you have your lunch? Do you have your snack? Did you grab a jacket?" Every question was met w/ "yup". I sort of wilted and said, "Well, sounds like you don't really need me anymore." She said, "I need you, Mom. Just not for this." Bittersweet. :)
Breeze - What an absolutely wonderful response from your girl. *heart swell*
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